establishing and maintaining relationships

Beginning and maintaining enduring relationships.
Understanding your self and being aware of your feelings and thoughts and using mindfulness to allow better relating processes to occur helps with any relationship.

The personal and intimate relationships especially need resilience and forgiveness in order to endure. Seeing the good side of things rather than the bad things in your relationship allows you to have a greater understanding and appreciation of your your partner's finer points (good and bad).

When you are better able to control your impulses and understanding how your emotions are at play you will begin to realise that when things are difficult it is often better to walk away and think about things before launching into attach mode.
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together and seperate

Successful relationships have the components of separateness and togetherness. The push and pull of relationships is just that. Being in touch with others allows us to have connection, feel support, share ideas and experiences, be loving and kind, thoughtful and considerate. Yet there is the ongoing desire to have our own space and ideas and time alone.

This latter need is often ignored and sometimes actively discouraged in some relationships. Those are the relationships that end up with bitterness, antagonism and regret as major components of the daily connection.

Where a person is not able to be assertive and is often giving into their partner's wishes, resentments may build up over the years and end up in explosions. The couple that seemed to be perfectly happy suddenly have arguments that are neveer resolved or understood, split and it ends up in divorce. Frequently, interventions that help identify exactly what is going on for the individuals can enlighten what is occuring for the couple.

pre-marriage and couple counselling

Couples sometimes seek pre-marital counselling to ensure a solid foundation for their relationship, their coming marriage or commitment ceremony. Preempting issues, enables the couple (whether in a marriage or de-facto relationship) to move more easily from the limmerance or honeymoon stage to a more substantial relationship. In early relationship stages there is lot of acting and pretending. In order to be loved or liked all of us do things to make the other person happy.

Problems sometimes arise when we are not primarily making ourselves happy. Pre-marital (or pre-relationship) counselling helps people discover the real reasons why they want to be together. Becoming aware, being mindful and being alert to issues allows early resolution and establishes a pattern that can last the entire relationship. Long lasting relationships often refer to the openness between partners as being a critical ingredient.